I come from a broken home. My father left when I was 11. It was a very explosive divorce. He was abusive. After he left, my mother was very abusive. So were my brothers. And the babysitter. And my mom's boyfriend's friend, whom we barely even knew. I tried killing myself several times. My brother actually succeeded. A lot of people hate me because they got burned by a fire that I have disciplined myself to keep away from others. I have never hurt anyone the way I was hurt, bu

I am an immigrant from China. I came from a family with my divorced biological parents and chaotic environments that contributed to--what I learned much later in life--my developmental and attachment trauma. Poverty, immigration, discrimination, and ongoing family burdens have been major challenges I have faced in my life. In the past 10 years, I have worked on understanding attachment theory, becoming more aware of my own attachment wounds and their impacts on my tendencies

My name is Nikki, and I'm from the San Francisco Bay Area in California. I'm the daughter of a beautiful person who hadn't found her healing yet when I was born. When I came into the world, I was met with rejection and disappointment. Though I don't remember this, I do know that I have always had a deep knowing that survival meant pleasing my mother and ignoring my own wants and needs. I have always been a people pleaser, and I felt a sense of shame when I had needs. I did my